Where there is no vision, the people perish…
One of the things I am grateful for in our marriage is that we had solid premarital counseling. At first, I didn’t know how it was going to go because our counselor was my childhood pastor. Would it be awkward? Would we get lectured? Would we uncover junk no one wanted to touch? But over the course of those weekly meetings, we learned and grew and realized that we were on a journey together not just to be in love and to be together, but to do things together that God specifically designed us to only be able to do together.
Since then, we’ve tried to maintain consistent conversations about our goals and purpose as a couple. This is a good time of year for me to reflect on those conversations as well as to add some of my personal goals and things I want to accomplish in our marriage.
For example, I want to be more intentional about helping my husband to rest. He is a mile a minute man–between church, work, service, community leadership, fatherhood–he is always on the go. And often when he is home, his mind is racing about things still to be done. Whether through a few more date nights or mini-vacations or just turning off the noise and sitting and having a cup of coffee with him, I want to do what I can to encourage more rest in his life.
I also hope that we can get away for a marriage retreat this year. This book has shaped many of our conversations but we are yet to get away and have a trip just focused on our marriage and vision casting. I’m prayerful that 2016 will be the year for that.
What are your goals for this year? I’d love to hear from you in the comments or via #WriteLoveChallenge on Instagram!
Bonus Love: Write three goals on an index card and tape them to your bathroom mirror!